Dear Tony,

When I was around the age of 20, I met a guy that was at the time everything I wanted. He was my fairy tale husband to be. We were going to get married after he finished the police academy, have kids and live happily ever after. We had our ups and down, but at the time it seemed everything was going as planned except for what I wanted out of life. I wasn't sure of what I wanted in a man or who I was going to be in life. It seemed that things were going too fast and I wasn't sure if this fairy tale was mine or his. So I decided to end the relationship because I felt I was better off without him. 5 years later, after one too many failed relationships, and searching for a man to love me the way he once loved me, I want to give it another go round. He is a successful cop with a kid now, and i'm still confused about what I want to do with my life.. but i'm okay with it now. But he is in a relationship with his son's mother (living together), but he told me he doesn't love her, he wants to be with me too, and he would chance it for me. But he can't put his happiness before his son. I understand, so I should let it be, right? I had my chance and I let go...but I can't help but want him. I know I should fall back, but I can't help the way I feel. I don't know what to do.