Dear Tony,When I was in my late twenties I started to date a friend very casually who was 35 years old, lived in his mother's basement with an illegal occupation (If you know what I mean). I was just out of a bad relationship and saw him as someone safe to hang out with and have some fun. But after just 3 months he planned a big party with all of our friends and proposed! I did not want to marry him but I accepted to save him the embarrassment. His family was ecstatic but mine was not. We continued as an engaged couple but I gave him stipulations to marry him which were, to get a job, stop his illegal activities and to show me he could be a family man. I will spare you the details of the VERY painful journey but eventually he did these things and we moved in together to begin to plan a wedding. But then he started cheating, slacking paying the bills and maintaining his lies about these things even though he was caught red handed. After 8 months of separation he finally admitted the error of his ways and we got back together and are trying to rebuild but I still deal with the young lady he was cheating with stalking me and just trust issues across the board. We scheduled an appointment for counseling and when we got there he decided he didn't like the therapist so
he walked out and left me there alone before we even got a chance to talk. I am now years older and tired of this whole situation. Am I giving up too soon because of my trust issues with him or is this just an unstable loser that I should dump?