Dear Tony,

I have been dating this guy that I met online for 3 years now. He lives in Tennessee which has been a problem but we've been dealing with it. He is working on moving here but I am starting to wonder if I really want him to. The problem is that I think he takes me for granted but he doesn’t see it. When we first started talking to each other he used to call me all the time. First thing in the morning, several times during the day and at night before we went
to sleep. He says he loves me and I believe he does but is it enough? Yes, I love him but he doesn’t give me enough of his time anymore. He goes all day and won’t call me and the excuse he gives me is that if he calls me he will get distracted from what he has to do and start talking to me. He says that just because he is not talking to me at the time does not mean he is not thinking about me because I am always on his mind. He thinks that is good enough. He works a full-time job all week, gets off work and works on cars. On the weekends during the summer he fishes in tournaments that take up a lot of his time and he hunts. He goes to hang out with his friends (I know he is with them because I can call him and he will answer and you can hear them all in the background) playing games such as dominos or cards. Where do I fit in? Men are always saying that they can not read women's mind so I am open enough to tell him what I am feeling. I have told him so many times that I feel neglected, that he does not have enough time for me. He says that he may not show me but I
am his top priority. I can’t tell. A man can tell a woman he loves her all he wants but if she don’t feel it then it doesn’t matter. Now he doesn’t call me until after 10. This would be fine if he actually talked to me but by this time he is usually dead tired and ready to go to sleep so I get about 2 or 3 minutes worth of conversation then he is out. I want to know am I being too pushy or expecting too much from someone who loves me?