Dear Tony,

My problem is my wife has cheated on me two times that I know of, but many more times as I ve been told by HER family and friends. I stayed for the kids, but now my kids are almost 20 and my heart is not feeling their mother the way I used to. We basically live as roommates, no touching, a kiss if the moon is full. I really don't like to touch her knowing a other man had hands on her. Just wanted your thoughts on the matter. I think counseling is waste. I know she wouldn't go because she's in denial. For the record I've never cheated.