Dear Tony,

I love my wife and kids dearly. My wife and I have been together for 19 years and married for 16 years. Our children are teenagers, and are good kids for the most part. I was once an out of shape guy but I got my butt in the gym. Not only did I lose weight I got rid of my hypertension and I have a hell of a body, so I’ve been told. My wife has gained a little weight but I don’t care because I think she’s as sexy as she was the day that I met her. Over the last several years my wife has pulled away from a good sex life. I mean I want it 3 or 4 times a week. She wants it once a month. My boys tell me to pick up a spare and keep my family together. I talked to my wife, I have begged her, and  all I get is more excuses and it seem I get less sex. I tell a lot of females no on a daily basis, only to go home for my wife to tell me that she’s tired, busy, sick, or just flat out says she don’t have time. I want my wife. I don’t want to step out. I tried to start from the beginning and take her out dinner. It was working for a hot second but quickly went back to the same old same ol’. Should I give up and get a spare and keep my family together, or keep living unhappily ever after without or just get divorced.