Blogger Ronnie Tyler tells us 7 reasons she knew he was the one:
1. There was no guessing.
He was committed to me. After dating for a couple of months, Lamar said that he wanted to be in an exclusive relationship with me. That's right..he asked me to be his girlfriend. He was not "acting " like my boyfriend, but leaving his options open. I didn't have to guess about the status of my relationship. (Come on ladies...I know some of y'all have been there...feeling and acting like a girlfriend...but not really knowing.)
2. He broke down my wall.
Lamar likes to remind me that I had a wall up when we started dating. But he was patient, loving and kind. And he eventually broke down my wall. It felt good to relax and trust someone with my heart.
3. He is a family man.
He went to church with me and my family. He went to family reunions. He hung out with my kids and me. Family was important to Lamar and he did not mind being around my family (and we certainly have some characters.)
4. He has faith in God.
Lamar didn't just say he was a child of God, he displayed it in his actions. It was very important to me that my spouse shared the same belief system as me. I tried dating someone that did not believe the same as me. And for me, it was a big mistake.
5. He loved my kids.
Eventually, Lamar got to know my kids. I knew he loved them. We weren't the Brady bunch right away....my son was on the fence about this new man in my life. The adjustment was not easy...but Lamar did not run for the hills.
6. He showed me that being with me was enough.
No matter what I was doing (hanging with family, doing things with the kids, cleaning the house, or doing nothing) Lamar was right there...and he was present too. He was not distracted and he was not rushing me to be finished.
7. He wouldn't let me break up with him.
I broke up with him after a huge argument. I was DONE. The next day, he sent me flowers. And we started talking again. He wasn't afraid to be vulnerable with me. He definitely showed me that he wanted to resolve our problems and make our relationship work. It was a good indication of how we would be able to work on our problems.