I'm a 36 year old woman. I have been with my husband since I was 16. We have 4 children together. In the last 3 or 4 yrs he has become a different person. He drinks more and has become violent. He's mentally and verbally abusive to me. Recently he woke me up to fight about any and everything he could think of. Counseling? He says he will go but when it's time to go he flakes. I just don't want to do this anymore. Please help.