Dear Tony,

I've been with a man off and on for seven years. Every time we parted (two times) it was for his moving conflicts. He has become a bitter man in the last two years and I almost feel like I don't know him anymore. Yes, we love each-other, and never has there been any physical or verbal abuse; only brief arguments about his miserable life, and why he feels the way he feels. I know that I am not at fault, but sometimes he makes me feel like it. What should I do? Leave him or help him until he becomes the man I fell for five years before? I know that this sounds crazy for me to be waiting this long, but this long relationship has only had conflicts because of family issues haunting him for life and no one but me willing to listen and make him feel better. I have given him 9months to get himself together and move on; otherwise I will leave him for good. He comes from a very dysfunctional family.