Dear Tony,
 
My husband and I have been married for 8 years and we have a three-year old daughter. Our marriage has been rocky for the last few years. My husband has a decent job and I work full-time as well. A couple of years ago my husband bought me a new car without my knowledge. The problem is we already had a car note, but he assured me he would work a second job. Time went on and he never got a second job. My job offered overtime so I would go in at 6 in the evening and wouldn’t get off until 6 or 7 the next morning. After having numerous talks with him about helping out more financially he told me he couldn’t see working his life away. I express my feeling about him working a part-time job for 6 months and then I work the next 6 months until we got caught up but once again he refused. Throughout the marriage I spent my savings of over $9000 keeping us ahead of the bills hoping he would free me from the stress but he didn’t. I got tired and moved out into my own apartment 7 months ago. I tried to reach an agreement on support he would give me for caring for our daughter. Mind you daycare is seven hundred a month and I asked him for 250 a paycheck (every two weeks) and he told me he couldn’t afford so I filed child support cause I felt he left me no choice. He received the child support papers stating he had to pay me 600 a month. He called me cussed me out and stated he would only pay what child support asked and if his daughter needed any thing he wouldn’t buy it. I had hoped he would fight for the marriage like he always said he would. He told me the only way he would stay with me as if I we moved in together again and I dropped child support . I told him I wouldn’t ever come back because I feel like I couldn’t rely on him for anything if something happen to me or our child. When a woman is with a man they want to have a sense of security, but I didn’t get this from my husband. Not to mention, he doesn’t support my goals and dreams because he don’t have any for instance me starting a business, going to school, etc. Do you think this is fair and what are your feelings?