Dear Tony,

I have a problem. I was married to this guy for 2 years and together for 3, we have 3 beautiful children together, and I wouldn't trade them for anything, but recently we have been trying to work our differences out. He drinks and smokes beyond control. He tells me all the time he would quit, but I do not believe him. I care deeply for him but I don't want to jeopardize my life and my children's life. What should I do?