Dear Tony,

I feel I have what is a huge problem. I met a guy almost eight months ago and we never really talked we'd say hi and bye and make plans that fall thru, via calls. But one day about 3 weeks ago I get a call and we haven't stopped talking since. I've seen him twice and my 2 daughters absolutely LOVE HIM. So now here's my dilemma...he has a criminal record, is 40 years old, really doesn't work and lives at home with his mother (he's been out 3 years) BUT he makes me happier than I've ever been.  He comes over cooks, cleans, holds me, makes me feel like no one else has ever and the best part about it is that he is very patient with me because I'm not ready to have a sexual relationship and is very open about his past, his short comings and the mistakes he has made. This man keeps asking me to marry him. EVERYTHING in me is screaming yes, but my mind says no: he can't take care of you and your girls. That's my only hang up. What do I do?