Dear Tony,

I am married to a wonderful man but he's not meeting my needs in the bedroom. I'm 40 and he's 47. Recently this guy that I have been interested in for about six years asked me out. In a way I want to go but I know that would be cheating and I don't want to be looking behind my back. I've spoken with my husband several times and we've bought things, including the little blue pill. Nothing is working and I have needs. He says that I please him but I'm not being pleased. I do stuff to him that I didn't do with my ex-husband. What should I do?