Dear Tony,

My husband and I have been married for 3 years and together for 6. We have faced ups and downs just like any married couple, but this past year and a half it seems like we just can't make it work. We have significant trust issues with each other. We don't respect each other or communicate with each other well. Our sex life is pretty much non existent and we just are not close anymore. To add fuel to the fire, my husband has been out of work for about a year so the financial stress on both of us strains the marriage even more and to make things even worse, he has become violent.
 
Two days ago, my husband received a call from a woman at 10:00 pm and claimed he didn't know who she was. I accused him of cheating with this mystery woman. Since I didn't believe him, he started hitting me and becoming very violent with me (yelling, threaten my life, and refusing to let me call for help) making it a very scary and violent situation for me. So violent I honestly thought I would die.
 
I don't know if his actions are due to his depression or not. He has been diagnosed with manic depression and paranoia and is on medication. He threatened to take his life yesterday morning and caused me bodily harm again yesterday morning. I am absolutely terrified of my husband Tony.  He is not the man I married.
 
We both have our faults and I have done my dirt too, but I have never been so extremely violent towards him like he was to me these past two days. I feel that we are at the end and that we should get a divorce, but I don't want to just abandon him. He has no money and no place to go. He has no family here, but me.