I am 36 years old, been with my husband for 16 years.(married for 14 years), we have two boys, 14 and 12. Life has been good, I am a stay home mom, my husband is a wonderful father, good provider, always put us first and make sure we have everything we need. Three months ago I got a call from my cousin, she saw my husband having lunch with some lady. She said they were laughing and having a good time. My husband paid the bill and they both left. When my husband got home, I asked him how was work. He said he don't want to talk about work right now he was tired. He got into the shower and his cell rang, I answered his phone and whoever it was hung up. An hour later his phone rang again and he answered it, I heard him say, I can't talk right now, I will call you tomorrow. I came into the room and asked him who he was talking to and he said, nobody--it was some one from work. The next morning he left for work but, forgot his phone. Around 9:00 his phone rang and I answered it, it was a lady and she said wrong number. My husband came back home around 9:30 am to get his phone. I called my cousin and told her to pick me up, I needed a drink. We were sitting at the bar talking when I ran into my high school boy friend. He bought me a couple of drinks. I was ready to go home, but my cousin wasn't. My old boy friend offered to take me home. We left, but we stop at his house, and yes---I had sex with him. I got with him again a couple of days later and we had sex again. The day before that, my cousin told me she seen my husband with the same woman, they were having lunch again. When my husband got home from work, I decided to confront him and tell him I was leaving. I told him my cousin saw him twice having lunch with some woman and I told him that I had also been sleeping with someone. Tears starting coming down his face and he said that he never cheated on me. He showed me two tickets to Paris. "I was taking you there for our 15 year anniversary. He met with the lady from the travel agency to get the best deal. She called him to confirm the package, but I answered the phone. I felt so stupid and dumb. I can see the hurt and pain in his face. He asked me to leave and don't come here or call him. It was going to be a surprise. He was going to tell me about this in front of my parents and the kids. Your mother knew about this, she told me to use the agency. Last week, I received divorced papers on our anniversary day. Tony, I lost the best man I could have asked for. He will not talk to me, take any of my calls. My boys are very upset with me and they don't speak to me. Give me some advice. How can I stop this divorce and do you think I can get him back?