Dear Tony,
A few months ago, I confronted my boyfriend about phone numbers that I had discovered in his wallet and about the phone calls that were made from his phone as well as the calls that were received.  To make a long story short, these were females. I called one of the females and she and I spoke for about 15 minutes. She did indicate that there was nothing sexually going on between the two but that he had asked if he could call her from time to time. I know that I was truly wrong for going through his stuff but I have to say that I had no reason to believe that he was doing anything out of line until he went and bought a new cell phone out of the blue. He barely had enough money to pay the bills and he all of a sudden purchases a cell phone? That sent red flags through my mind. I kicked into detective mode and researched for about a month. I kept a file and wrote down everything from his comings and goings to how much money he kept in his wallet. He was always late coming home and never had any money to purchase groceries or pay the bills. Was I truly wrong for going through his stuff if I found valid reasons to be suspicious? I would have felt like an a$# if I had not found anything. But, if I had not done my snooping, then I would not have known or found out the things that I found out. What should I do?