Dear Tony,

I have been married for 10 years now and my husband constantly tells me that I am not the one for him. Because of all the years of verbal abuse now our sex life is ruined. He will say hurtful things to me and still expect me to want to have sex. He compares me to other women by saying that he knows how a real woman is supposed to act because I cry or walk out the room when his verbal attacks start. They can start simply over us talking about finances or simple things like him doing something for my family. He has been so verbally abusive throughout the years that it has effected the way I see him. We never speak in the morning when we wake up. We don't kiss or hug. It has been years since he has told me that he loves me. Recently he told me that he has been looking at his exes Facebook page. He said he did it to see if she is talking about him on Facebook but I don't think that was why. We have a beautiful daughter together and I know it would hurt her so much if I was to leave but his words have hurt me so so bad that I don't know what to do anymore. He says whatever he wants to me, in front of my daughter and her friends. He refuses to change his ways and now it is like I just have a roommate.