Dear Tony,

I did something I always said I would never do, date a married man. When my girlfriend stopped  him, I told her to ask him if he's married. He threw his hands up and said I'm all man. Me being slow as I am, I didn't pay attention. We went on dates, and months later he confessed he was married. It's been two years now. His wife knows about me. I'm not proud but I had been single for almost 4 years. This person has taught and showed me so much. I've fallen for him but now his wife has left him and his attitude has changed. He spazzed out on me one night and I got upset and told him not to call. It's been 3 weeks and he hasn't called. What should I do?