Dear Tony,

My wife never wants to sleep in the bed with me. There's always an excuse. It's either too hot or too cold or we don't watch the same things on TV. When she finally decides she wants to lay with me it's because she wants sex. I am completely turned off and can't get turned on because this in the back of my mind. Is it normal for people who live together to not sleep in the same bed? It happens once or twice a month. I'll let her watch whatever she wants on TV in the bedroom just so she'll be with me. All kinds of thoughts run through my head. I feel she's no longer attracted to me and is becoming detached emotionally. Maybe she found some one else and doesn't know how to tell me. Could she be cheating on me or am I taking this way too seriously?